Overview
A novelist's world is turned upside down when she hears her husband's true feelings about her work, leading to unexpected revelations.
Ember's analysis
- Pacing
- Measured
- Intensity
- Moderate
- Complexity
- Easy to follow
- Violence
- None
- witty
- sincere
- intimate
- quiet evening
- date night
What critics said
Critics broadly praised Nicole Holofcener's finely observed writing, emotional intelligence, pacing, and performances in this nuanced comedy-drama about honesty in marriage.
What sets it apart
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Beth's marriage is destabilized when she hears Don's private, honest response to her novel after he had previously praised it.
The film turns a marriage crisis, therapy sessions, family exchanges, and creative criticism into precise everyday drama.
Beth's identity as a novelist makes Don's criticism feel like both an artistic judgment and a personal betrayal.
The writer protagonist, therapist husband, theater-connected family, and Manhattan setting place the conflict within an educated urban creative culture.
Films like You Hurt My Feelings, and why
Enough Said
shared intimate relationship drama, conversational humor, and emotional honesty
The Squid and the Whale
shared domestic comedy, marriage tension, and sharply observed middle-class relationships
Please Give
shared witty ensemble drama focused on family dynamics, self deception, and difficult conversations
The Lovers
shared understated romantic drama, adult relationship conflict, and literary sensibility
Movie Details
- Director
- Nicole Holofcener
- Release Date
- 2023-05-26
- Runtime
- 93 min
- Rating
- 6.3 / 10 (197)
Cast
- Julia Louis-Dreyfus
- Tobias Menzies
- Michaela Watkins
- Arian Moayed
- Owen Teague
- Amber Tamblyn
- David Cross
- Zach Cherry
- LaTanya Richardson Jackson
- Sarah Steele
Where to watch in United States
- Rent
- Amazon Video, Apple TV Store, Google Play Movies, YouTube, Fandango At Home, Spectrum On Demand, Plex
- Buy
- Amazon Video, Apple TV Store, Google Play Movies, YouTube, Fandango At Home
Streaming options come from TMDB and change over time.
Common questions
- What is You Hurt My Feelings about?
- A novelist’s faith in her marriage falters when an overheard critique exposes the uneasy boundary between love, honesty, and encouragement.
- What is You Hurt My Feelings like to watch?
- Ember's analysis rates the pacing of You Hurt My Feelings as measured, its intensity as moderate and its storytelling as easy to follow.
- Is You Hurt My Feelings violent?
- No — Ember's analysis finds no violence in You Hurt My Feelings.
- What did critics think of You Hurt My Feelings?
- Critics broadly praised Nicole Holofcener's finely observed writing, emotional intelligence, pacing, and performances in this nuanced comedy-drama about honesty in marriage.
- Which films are like You Hurt My Feelings?
- Films with a similar feel include Enough Said, The Squid and the Whale, Please Give, and The Lovers.
- How long is You Hurt My Feelings?
- You Hurt My Feelings runs 93 minutes.
- Where can I watch You Hurt My Feelings?
- In United States, You Hurt My Feelings is available to rent or buy from Amazon Video, Apple TV Store, Google Play Movies, YouTube, Fandango At Home, Spectrum On Demand, Plex.
